Sunday, 31 January 2016


                                           Be  Thankful   !

Grateful men are very rare. But ingrates are a dozen a dime.

It is appalling the level of selfishness and ingratitude some people exhibit.

A housewife said to her friend at a social gathering ‘‘my husband does not appreciate all that I do. He says ‘what’s the big deal in your keeping house, cooking and laundering for the family? I could do better if I did not have to go to work. He says it like ‘woman, it’s your duty and I don’t have to thank you.’’

A new worker had not worked for more than two weeks at a factory when he began to speak ill of the overall boss. ‘If not that I had a string of bad luck, I would not be doing this kind of job’. Yet before he got the job he was pleading tearfully ‘please ma, I desperately need the job. I promise to work hard and be faithful.’

People can spend all day complaining and agitating about their unsavoury lot, yet when there is a little improvement in their situation they find it hard to say, ‘thank you’. They are just like uncouth kids who want the whole world now but rarely find anything they have received appreciable.

An ingrate is like an armed robber, he ‘steals’ all you have and leaves you empty and unhappy.

Do you remember Jesus’ parable about the ten lepers who were healed. Only one came back to thank the master for his healing. This is why the blessings of so many people are not full, do not last or get lost. Ingratitude puts an obstacle before their miracle.

We find it easy to fight, agitate, grumble and manipulate things our way than appreciate what we have.

If you want to get ahead in life, you must learn to be grateful to God and man. Appreciating all the good that is done for you will help you get along with others and get ahead in life.     
    “…in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” (1 Thessalonians 5:18)

The Power of Patience


                                        The Power of Patience

     I hate waiting. I like to have my things done fast and quick. My flesh crawls when I have to wait and wait for service at a service counter.
     I know you probably do too. You like to have your stuff now and all of it!
     You want your wedding now! You want your breakthrough now!
     There are countless businesses, relationships and destinies that have been truncated by impatience.
     But I have learnt that not all things come quickly, not all things worthwhile will come to you at the flick of your finger.
     You have to learn the power of patience.
      Career success takes a process of time.
      It takes time to build life giving relationships.
      It takes time to grow, mature and become established.
     Many great achievements follow the gradual process of time and you might have to wait if you want to get a worthwhile blessing that will stand the test of time.
    For example you can’t force the process of marriage, childbirth, maturity and financial breakthrough. If you do, it will most likely come with disastrous consequences.
     There is power in patience. While you are waiting and working, you are learning, growing, maturing and becoming established.
     You have to follow due process and wait for your time. This does not mean you must not be ambitious. No. You can be ambitious but don’t be hasty.
     Life will give you what you desire as you plan wisely, work diligently, persevere and keep moving forward.
     You must learn to wait patiently on the Lord.
     There are times you can’t have your way nor make things work out for you fast.
     If you are patient, you will wear out all your opposition and resistance.
    If you are patient, you will have your desire over your enemies.
    Remember the adage ‘the patient dog eats the fattest bone.’
    Don’t look for short cuts or you will be cut short. Learn to wait on God and He will bring your desires to come to pass.
    “Wait on the Lord, and keep His way, and He shall exalt you to inherit the land; when the wicked are cut off you will see it.” (Psalm 37:34)
                           

Sunday, 30 August 2015

WHY ARE MARRIAGES FAILING?



A friend asked me “why is my marriage not working? Why can’t I keep permanent and enjoyable relationships?
I don't claim to have all the answers but could it be that ;
 
-          you are selfish and care only about yourself?
-          you are too proud , ‘closed’ and unreachable?
-          you lack tact in relating with people?
-          you have diarrhea of the mouth?
-          you find it difficult to give yourself to your spouse?
-          you love your stuffs more than your family?
-          you are too busy and pressed for time to relate?
-          you are playing God over your spouse by trying to change them?
-          you are too perfect for ordinary folks to satisfy?
-           you are not kind and compassionate in dealing with people.
-          you are an unfriendly person who loves strife?
-          you are allowing small conflicts to grow and fester?
-          you are not affirming your love for your partner.
-          you easily misunderstand your friends?
-          you are intolerant and impatient with people?
-          you find it difficult to love people?
-          you do not respect your spouse?
-          you believe wrongly that all men are brutes and women are demons?
-          you are a sexist?
-          you are cynical and suspicious of your folks?
-          you have disappointed the trust of your family and friends?
-          you are not appreciative of your relationships?
-          you have neglected your marital and financial obligations?
-          you are not working at and growing your relationship?
-          you are not forgiving and forgetting offences committed against you?
-          you lack people skills?
-          you are being distracted by a lot of external  influences?
-          you have given up on your relationship?
-          you are not seeking God’s help in your relationship?
-          you are allowing satan to break your family and friendships?

Tuesday, 20 August 2013

HELP! MY WIFE IS PUSHING ME OUT!

 Alex and his wife Tammy were high school ‘sweethearts’ who got married about ten years ago.  Today their marriage is blessed with two adorable kids and they have a business that is doing fine despite the recession.

     
       Over the years their marriage has been doing well because of their Christian background, but for some time now Alex has been having a lot of dissatisfaction with their relationship. And why is this so?


       Alex is not fulfilled sexually… They have not been making love regularly for quite some time because Tammy mostly complains of not feeling up to it (When she is not too busy with her job or having to cope with the children’s demands, she is just too stressed up with much stuff to get intimate with her husband….)


       Although Alex loves his wife and family dearly and has been bearing well under the circumstances, but he is not satisfied with the short tryst he gets once a while with his wife (when he is ‘lucky’ he gets to play with Tammy once a month). She is just not available and even when she is, he can hardly get all her attention. And his suggestions at improving their love life has not yielded fruit except empty promises, quarrels and greater frustrations…At times Tammy accuses him of being insensitive and misunderstanding her…”Alex, we are no longer as young as we used to, and besides we have a lot of responsibilities now…Pleeaaassse I am very tired and sleepy but you can do whatever you want but not tonight…”

     
       Alex is just confused….“God…what is wrong with my wife, my marriage and our lives. I am doing everything possible to see that my marriage succeeds, but it is not working. What should I do? In whom do I confide? Oh God, please help me!

     
       To compound Alex’s problems are all the attention he gets from the opposite sex, especially Sandra, the young receptionist at work who has been trying to flirt with him. He has had to fight off suggestions by his colleagues to take up her sexual advances… Now he is having a continual battle fighting off the thoughts of Sandra’s sexual attentions…

     
       As a Christian, he knows it is wrong to have any extra marital affair but the situation at home is disheartening and pushing him to the edge…

     
       “For how much longer can I cope…What should I do?”

     
       (Friends, please counsel Alex and Tammy on what he should do to overcome the challenges in their marriage)




Tuesday, 23 August 2011

WE HAD A GREAT BLAST AT MY HOUSE!



Yesterday was one of those days with very dreary weather that could get anyone despairing. I came back home tired from visiting some family friends and really felt like relaxing a little. But as soon as I saw my kids I could see the boredom written all over them and that they just wanted someone to play with them. But I was tired and needed some time out myself.

Yeah, I was so soo tired. Besides, I was busy juggling some financial figures and some other things in my head which seem to be working overtime. Now was not the best time for any tomfoolery or silly kiddy plays. Was it not about their welfare that I was scheming about somehow even on the Lord’s Day of rest? I just felt I could not be bothered now. I got myself a soft drink and tried listening to some refreshing jazz tracks on my laptop. But I couldn’t chase the gnawing thoughts at the back of my mind…...

But for how long could I keep denying these kids their time with their ‘great’ Dad? I remembered my wife had been complaining I was too busy to take time out with our kids and the family. And I knew I was guilty as charged, very guilty.

But I just thought “what time will ever be the right time for these kids and my family? I was always pushing it off and never getting back to it. I owed them time and more time as the days went by. And it always left me feeling helpless and guilty. I felt these kids were growing so fast and I was denying them so much waiting for the perfect day when everything will be alright and I can take time out with the kids……Things were getting critical…

I just got up on the spur of the moment and said ” kids, let play!”

 And we sang and pranced and danced and hollered and had a lot of fun. It was great watching all the creative dance steps and experiencing all sheer expressions of joy. And when we got tired of having a ‘party’, we went full swing into the FIFA under 21 tournaments and had many exciting moments cheering our boys on.

Friends, talk about creating a memorable family moment. I didn’t know where I got all the zest and innovative moves from, but it was so enjoyable and fulfilling. I realized more money is not really what we need to make our families happier but being more creative with whatever resources we have. I also saw we can only receive joy as we give it to others and not the other way round. I believed we wouldn’t have had more wholesome fun even if we had tried eating out.

Believe you me; I had not enjoyed any evening like this for a very long time. What a great joy it is to have a loving, joyful family around you right in the midst of a recession! As a man I am learning not to take myself so seriously all the time. 

Tell you what, we had a great blast!

Tuesday, 16 August 2011

TEACHING YOUR KIDS TO LOVE THE BIBLE.



It’s a shame that a lot of believers cannot really boast of having children who follow their faith and love the Lord Jesus. 

It’s often a battle to make our children pray, read the Bible or behave well as Christian kids. Most of our kids can quote all the lines of Harry Porter and Tom and Jerry by heart but are hardly motivated to know their scripture memory verses. Sunday school is more like a torture session.

Most Christians hardly invest in any time and effort in godly instructions for their children or getting Christian entertainments for them. Many parents don’t really care what their children do so far as they are out of their way. Even the generality of the Church hardly has a good Christian education program and curriculum in place for our children, most think they disturb the adult service so they are best kept locked away in one corner with enough snacks till the service is over. 

Yet we fail to realize we have a limited time frame (between ages 1-7 according to psychologists) to positively impact their young and impressionable minds with the truths of the Scripture, before a worldly mindset is molded in them. By the time children know their left from their right we may have to do a lot of fasting and fighting to get them to tow the Bible line. 

Recently a friend told me about his seven year old son’s love for the Holy Scriptures. For a long time he had been asking for a Bible but the parents thought he could not handle it, not knowing that the seeds of righteousness they had been sowing was now germinating.

 - They had always prayed intentionally that their kids would love the Lord right from birth. The kids saw their parents pray and study the Word regularly.

 - And they kept these up through regular times of family devotions that were kept short and informative to keep the children awake and interested. Kids need to be taught the Word, encouraged when they do right, and corrected and disciplined when they do wrong.

 - They lived a consistent Christian life before their kids. It’s a bad sign for you to wait until the kids start ‘preaching  correctionally’ before  you correct  your wrongs. And please don’t harass these little cherubs when they tell you the truth!.

- They invested well in godly comics, music and other entertainment that created a deep hunger that only the Word of God could fill. Kids learn best in an atmosphere of joy and fun as fish take to water. And then they used these occasions to impart lessons of eternal value to their young minds.

-Disinfect your children from all negative influences they may try to bring in from school or your friends. Believe you me, Harry Porter and his ilk with all their scary images will only stretch our children’s imagination where we ourselves do not want to go and make our discipleship work doubly difficult.

 For them it was a dreams come true for their child to personally request for the gift of a Bible. 

And what a blessing it was as they guided the child in reading and making practical sense of what the Bible was saying to his young mind and seeing the godly attributes blossoming in his life like wildflowers in the rain!.