Goodbye Masturbation!

Goodbye Masturbation!

Friends, I think it’s high time someone speak out about this masturbation of a thing. I’m shocked when you catch adults unawares doing it in public. A parent was shocked when he caught his twelve year old boy and his friends ‘doing’ it.

Well, for some of you who don’t know, masturbation is what you do when you gently stroke your genitals to give yourself or somebody else sexual pleasure, usually to the point of achieving orgasm.

Okay, okay I finally said it- masturbation. And I’m airing all its dirty secrets too.

 I no longer want us to follow what Thomas Szasz said about masturbation because it’s not true. “Masturbation: the primary sexual activity of mankind. In the nineteenth century it was a disease; in the twentieth, it's a cure”.

-          It never was and will never be the primary sexual activity of human beings because God meant sexual intercourse to be enjoyed within the context of marriage. For most young folk, its masturbating overtime that eventually leads them to ‘try it out’ with their friends for the first time.

-          It has ever been a disease, an act of shame. That is why whenever you want to masturbate you run to hide in the toilet from your spouse and your friends and when you are through you feel dirty and soiled like you were stealing something not belonging to you. And you hate yourself each time you find yourself doing it again, like you were less human.

-          It is never a cure for the rejection, pain or lack of sexual fulfillment you are going through. Most people who masturbate cannot enjoy normal sexual activity with their spouse because they are so used to finding pleasure all by themselves. It’s like opium, the more you take; the more you are hooked and not satisfied.

-          Even if you argue that it protects from unwanted pregnancies yet gives the much needed momentary pleasures, you are not dealing with the real enemy here which is lack of self-control. And if you continue this habit into marriage, it will hinder you from having real intimacy with your spouse and everyone else.

From our junior schools, offices, and homes to our Church workers we find this masturbation beast creeping everywhere like a germ, bringing folks down unawares; both young and old are crying out for deliverance from its menace. What can we do to get out of its vicious grip?

-      Acknowledge you are involved in wrongdoing and desire a positive change. Even though the devil is offering us Prada, his gifts should be avoided like nuclear fallout. Films and music with lewd contents should become anathema.

 -     Ask for help. There is nothing God cannot do. Pray that the Omnipotent power of God will help you break this evil habit that is gradually taking your life apart. Ask God for the grace of self-control before you disgrace yourself.

-      Make yourself accountable to good friends who can help you keep to the right paths from time to time. And parents please watch out for and stop these bacteria in your kids before it sticks.

-      Avoid everything that can stir up unnecessary sexual fantasies. Don’t view unwholesome images nor be involved in flirty chats. Spend your time and emotions on the right things.

-       Act fast when you are tempted. Off the mistaken fire fast before it spreads. And if the fire gets out of hand, run to a cooler place like the Church and stay there! Go do something wholesome like visiting the gym or cleaning your street.

-          Pray that God will give you the bone of bone and flesh of your flesh, you know someone with whom you will ‘do it’ together forever. And get ready in good time they are coming!